Owl Box & Orchard at Pastime Farm, Sunol. April 2016

Preparing to Awaken: March 2019

Preparing to Awaken

 – 4 Sundays in March 2019


I have to go to the woods, and I have to meet the wolf, or else my life will never begin.”  Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Preparing to Awaken is a training course offering the pure delivery of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) within a feminine context. It interweaves traditional ACT philosophy, metaphor and experiential exercises with inquiry, deep listening, and women’s circle. This way of approaching ACT leverages the strength of feminine process to deepen your subjective understanding of the material — thereby preparing the way for awakening.

Topics to be covered in this course include:

  • Waking up from the Myth of Control
    • Day 1 clarifies what is actually within our control. This refinement in understanding is essential to maintaining serenity.
  • Opening to the Stuff that’s Been Avoided
    • Day 2 unmasks our subconscious fear-based behaviors. This revelation of our patterns opens the possibility for choice.
  • Gaining a Felt-Sense of Willingness
    • Day 3 offers an alternative to our misguided attempts at control. This exploration of fearlessness provides the foundation for grace.
  • Loading Up Our Picnic Baskets
    • Day 4 honors wrapping up, visioning, and celebrating! This integration heartens us as we set forth individually on our journeys.

What journeys? In referring to the Quest for the Holy Grail, Joseph Campbell teaches that the knights collectively agreed to the mission, however, they understood the importance of entering the forest alone…. “They thought that it would be a disgrace to go forth as a group. Each entered the forest at a point that he himself had chosen, where it was darkest and there was no path. If there is a path, it is someone else’s path, and you are not on the adventure.”

What a relief that this is a women’s circle! Before entering the forest, we get to acknowledge all the goodies we’ve loaded into our picnic baskets over the past four weeks. We will share a delicious celebration (think: chocolate). And, finally, support one another as we step forth into the woods forging our individual paths.

What next?  The long-term vision is an inspired community of women supporting one another’s self-discovery and transformation through an ongoing, advanced-level Cultivating Wisdom Circle. Being on one’s heroic adventure is buoyed with the nourishment of amazing women who meet monthly in a idyllic retreat setting. (Not to mention the delicious support of our private chef!) In the even-longer-term, your circle might choose to close itself to new applicants and become something like the Returning to Essence Circle.

What if I miss a Sunday?  This course is offered every six months (March and September).  Please wait to enroll for the course when you can attend all four Sundays. If you miss a Sunday (e.g., due to illness) then please listen to its audio recording prior to the next session. (The material builds upon itself quickly.)

Who should attend?  Today’s teachings are subjective and experiential in nature. They are appropriate for health care professionals as well as the general public. Health care professionals will be able to incorporate the tools and practices offered in this program in ways beneficial to themselves, as well as to their clients/patients. This workshop uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as its foundation. Click here to see Kelly’s specialty training, including two years of full-time supervised ACT training.

Continuing education? Psychologists, MFT’s, LCSW’s, and RN’s earn 20 APA-approved CE credits.  There is a $60 administrative fee.  Note that partial CE credit cannot be given for partial attendance.  See the policies section below (above the registration link).



Sundays in March 2019
10a – 4p (Mar 3, 10, 17, 24)

Pastime Farm, Sunol, CA
Address provided upon registration

20 APA CE credits



9:45 am Arrivals & coffee service
10 am Workshop
12 pm  Lunch*
1 pm  Workshop
4 pm Departures

*coffee service & vegetarian lunch


Limited to 10 women

Total fee: $1200

Deposit: $300 at enrollment*

Payment plans & work scholarships available

*See course cancellation policy


Continuing Education for this Workshop

Learning Objectives – By the end of the workshop series, you will be able to:

  1. Define acceptance and commitment in your words
  2. Recreate two columns – listing what is (or is not) under one’s 
  3. Explain: “If you’re not willing to have it, then change it.”
  4. Explain: “If you’re not willing to have it, then you’ve got it.”
  5. Describe when “control is the solution”
  6. Describe when “control is the problem”
  7. Exemplify our inability to control emotions (e.g., fall in love)
  8. Exemplify our inability to control thoughts (e.g., jelly donuts)
  9. Answer, “If control is the problem, then why haven’t we let go of it?”
  10. Recreate a 5-column table listing: problem, solution, short-term effectiveness, long-term effectiveness, side effects. Give examples.
  11. Assess workability using the column above (see item 10).
  12. Describe two scales: control and willingness 

  13. Explain: “If control is a problem, then willingness is a choice.”
  14. Explain what is meant by the phrase: “Programming works by addition not subtraction” (e.g., trash can with stuff in it)
  15. Describe programming randomness (e.g., what are the numbers?)
  16. Use the image of two computers to illustrate “Can I find a distinction between me and the mental machinery?”
  17. Explain what is meant by: “What do I choose to believe… what my mind says or what my experience shows me?”
  18. Describe the difference between clean (i.e. primary) and dirty (i.e. secondary) discomfort. 
Give examples.
  19. Answer: “why is shoveling considered dirty discomfort?”
  20. Explain: “dirty discomfort is high when willingness is low”
  21. Describe the essence of the chessboard metaphor.
  22. Describe the essence of the passengers on the bus

Please Read Our Policies Before Signing Up

 CE credits for psychologists are provided by the Spiritual Competency Resource Center (SCRC) which is co-sponsoring this program. The Spiritual Competency Resource Center is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. The Spiritual Competency Resource Center maintains responsibility for this program and its content. The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE credits for LCSW, LPCC, LEP, and LMFT license renewal for programs offered by approved sponsors of CE by the American Psychological Association. SCRC is approved by the California Board of Registered Nursing (BRN Provider CEP16887) for licensed nurses in California. For questions about receiving your Certificate of Attendance, contact Nelly Cotto at nelly@kellyminor.com. For questions about CE, visit www.spiritualcompetency.com or contact David Lukoff, PhD at CE@spiritualcompetency.com.
Work scholarships are available offering a 25% to 50% discount. They are awarded based upon financial need and application timing. If you’re interested in being a work scholar, contact Nelly (nelly@kellyminor.com).
In the event that you cancel your daylong workshop registration for any reason, the following policies apply:  (1) If you cancel at least 30 days before a daylong workshop, then 75% of your payment will be refunded. (2) If you cancel at least 14 days before a daylong workshop, then 50% of your payment will be refunded. (3) If you cancel within 13 days of the daylong workshop, there is no refund. No refunds will be given for failure to attend or failure to complete the workshop. Cancellations must be made by contacting Nelly at 650-492-3702.
In the event that you cancel your course registration for any reason, the following policies apply: If you cancel 30 or more days prior to the course start-date, then 75% of your payment will be refunded. If you cancel less than 30 days prior to the course start-date, then 75% of your payment will be refunded only if someone from the wait list fills your spot. No refunds will be given for failure to attend or failure to complete the course series. Cancellations must be made by contacting Nelly at 650-492-3702.
In the event that your image is captured during any of the women’s events, it may be used by Kelly Minor on promotional materials and/or her website. By registering for this event, you are giving permission for those images captured through video, phone photo, and digital camera to be used at Kelly’s sole discretion on promotional materials and publications and waive the rights of compensation or ownership thereto. That said, if you are uncomfortable with a photograph of yourself being posted, please contact Nelly at 650-492-3702.

To register for this event:

Please confirm that you can attend all dates (March 3, 10, 17, 24).

And contact Nelly (nelly@kellyminor.com) to let her know that you are interested in attending. Work scholarships are available.